Darn, These Triggers

An acquaintance of mine reached out to me after a few years. After a brief conversation, we decided to meet for lunch to catch up, and we agreed to bring along a mutual friend.

During lunch, he was telling us a story on how he came to own this dog, and in the middle of his story mentioned he kicked the dog for whatever reason. I don’t remember the rest of the story, because I got triggered. I couldn’t believe he did such a thing and immediately reacted by telling him so. Where was his compassion?

I turned to my friend who was stoned face. She was nodding her head, acknowledging to him she was listening. I felt like I had an out-of-body experience watching these two people in conversation while I had to breathe and recognize that I had to move this energy through.

A trigger is not something you push away or try to erase. A trigger is an invitation for Growth. It’s an invitation to Transformation.

My sister would post from time to time about animal cruelty, and I would sign the petition – but all in all, its one reason why I don’t follow the news, watch violent or scary movies, etc. 

When faced with one of these buttons pushing episodes, I can beat myself up or take out my frustration or sadness on those around me, or I can take a step back and acknowledge the feelings as they arise and say to myself, “oh, there’s that old trigger thing again”, let me look at this place within that’s calling for my attention and send it love.

I’m not going to beat myself for having feelings; I’ll simply detach myself from the outcome. This is a big difference. 

 

16 thoughts on “Darn, These Triggers

  1. I so agree, Bernice. My therapist used to tell me to use the phrase, “that’s my fill-in-the-bank-trigger” and then acknowledge and move through it. That’s been so helpful in many situations.

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  2. Thank you for publishing this. Along with another related recent reminder I heard, this post was in my mind yesterday when one of my anxiety triggers popped up. These sentiments helped me to more consciously manage the situation and choose positivity – rather than the default spiral of panicking, worry, and negative actions.

    May your words continue to have a positive impact on others 😊.

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  3. My reaction for such a comment would have been close to yours and then I would leave, after telling the person to stay away from all sensible living beings like kids and animals. This person doesn’t deserve the love from the sensible.

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